Boy oh boy if only they taught this stuff to young kids in school. These tips are absolute jewels and unfortunately it takes most men and women years to discover them. As I read through these twenty simple tips I saw exactly how each helped my late wife and me have such a beautiful relationship for almost forty years until she passed.
In the beginning I was clueless but she patiently taught me everyone of these steps over the years and it made for a wonderful marriage. Now as I look back over those years I long to find that kind of relationship again. Now I know how to not only build a relationship but how to keep it fresh and interesting for both of us.
Absolutely the biggest and most important one is to never take each other for granted. You should never become so complacent in your relationship that you just expect your partner to respond in a certain way. Complacency leads to boredom while variety adds spice and leads to excitement. If you each kind of 'change it up' from time to time you find that each day becomes more interesting because of the potential for surprising each other.
Another critical tip is to never become so possessive of each other that you smother your feelings for each other. We all need a little personal space from time to time and that requires that our mate trust us with that time and space. On the other hand never become so engrossed in your outside activities that you spend too little time with your partner in life.
One way to avoid this is to develop common interests but short of that just be careful to balance your personal time with quality together time as well. Frankly I honestly believe that these tips should be published in a little booklet like a manual and call it "Guide to Building Healthy Relationships." It could be like the Dale Carnegie "Golden Book" that details how to win friends and influence people and how to start living and stop worrying. LOL
One tip that this article overlooked though is for a couple to treat their relationship like a business partnership with both participants maintaining equal voting rights in any decisions that involve them both. Any time that one or the other starts making major decisions without a consensus of opinion it automatically denigrates the other partner and makes them feel bypassed and left out of the picture.
Look at it this way. When you are united as a couple you are stronger and often smarter than you would be individually so as long as you act in concert you make better long term decisions that strengthen the relationship and make for a better long term result. However if you each go off half cocked and act independently you often make decision that are counterproductive and actually destructive to your relationship. It is much like the relationship that we see in today's Congress where the Democrats and Republicans are tearing our nation apart with their one sidedness. Sorry about the political remark but it was just too perfect of an analogy here and demonstrates exactly how marriages go awry.
So in all honesty I hope that all aspiring young couples encounter this article before they take the plunge into a long term relationship. Somehow I do believe that by following these simple easy to follow tips we might see a reverse in the trend in the divorce rate in this country.
Also we need to remove the stigma that is often attached to non-committal trial relationships for young couples. Certain Nordic countries accept this as a normal educational process and it results in fewer broken marriages because the young learn early what makes long term relationships work. As the old saying goes "experience is the best teacher." So I say read and enjoy these wonderful tips and if they help anyone in their relationship all the better.